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Faith Health and Wellness

What Is Your Worth?

I was listening to a podcast the other day by Marie Forleo and she was talking with someone about determining your worth in business. They were talking about how when you are looking at your worth, whether business or personal, you can’t allow other people to determine your worth. Their thought was that you determine your worth in life.

Yes, other people don’t determine my worth in life and not hearing from someone doesn’t determine my value. My worth is not based on what other people think of me but, honestly, I don’t believe that it’s just about me determining my own worth. See, I don’t trust myself. I’m my worst critic and don’t always believe my true worth. Oftentimes, I dwell on thinking I should have done more or that I’m a crappy mom, etc. Clearly, I’m not good at determining my own worth. So, even though I don’t want others to determine my worth, determining my own worth feels like a big weight as well.

Here’s what I have found: My worth is founded in what God thinks of me. God, my Creator, loves me as I am. I am a Child of God. He made me and I am worth SO MUCH because of Him. And. So. Are. YOU. Whether people believe in God or not, He created them and He loves them. He loves each and every one of us. And all of our worth is vast beyond what we can even imagine.

So, what does this mean for your own life? I have two takeaways. 

1. How do you treat yourself if you truly believe that your worth is based on what God thinks of you?

Guess what? You are worth taking time to feed yourself well. You are worth spending the time to feed yourself well/exercising/taking the mental break, etc.

2. Since our worth is based on God and we are ALL loved by Him…how does that change how I treat other people? 

Not only do I have worth and am invaluable, but those people walking down the street, even the person who honked at me or cut me off while driving, all of them have worth as well. And they are loved by a Creator who loves them more than they can imagine. I think if more of us thought about other people’s worth when we respond to the environment around us and what we see on social media, it would change how we would respond to them.

So, what is your worth? Where do you find your worth? Are you showing that in your own life and the way you treat yourself? Are you showing that in the way you treat other people?

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Faith Health and Wellness Self-care Stress Relief

My Favorite (Non-Fiction) Books

I LOVE to read. I rarely watch TV, because I am always reading. Everywhere I go, I bring a book with me because I would rather lose myself in a book than stare at my phone non-stop. I read a TON of fiction books, but also try to fill my time reading non-fiction books that grow my faith, business knowledge, healthy habits, etc. Here are some of my top favorite books. Take a look and then go grab a copy for yourself! (Side note: I love getting books from the library, but these are all ones worth owning — so you can re-read them and share them.)

1. Everything is Figureoutable by Marie Forleo

I can’t give this book enough praise! If you have ever made excuses for not meeting a goal, following a dream, fixing a problem…then you need this book! It’s easy to read, super practical, and Marie is so incredibly relatable. So stop making excuses about having time or money to read this book 😉 and go figure it out! As you’ll learn, everything is figureoutable!

2. Food Fix: How to Save Our Health, Our Economy, Our Communities, and Our Planet — One Bite at a Time by Dr. Mark Hyman

Dr, Hyman does a great job of walking us through where our food comes from, how current farming practices are depleting our land and resources, and how the way money is poured into companies that provide junk food to our bodies is another part of social injustice. He not only gives insight and knowledge into the situations around us, but practical solutions and ways you can start making a difference today.

3. The Healthy Home by Dr. Myron Wentz and Dave Wentz

The is by far my favorite book on creating a lifestyle free from harmful chemicals. The authors walk you room by room through a house and talk about the typical chemicals (and other things) that are found in those room and affecting your health. It’s fantastic resource that you’ll have to have near you at all times.

4. The Compound Effect by Darren Hardy

This is a great book to read whether or not you have your own business or are thinking of starting one — the principles in the book apply to everyone’s lives in some way. The book builds on the idea that one small thing can cause lasting change (for better or for worse). You can conquer big things and make a difference by starting with the small things.

5. Awe: Why It Matters For Everything We Think, Say, and Do by Paul David Tripp

We started reading this last year in my small group at church and it has become a favorite of mine. The author points to how so many of our problems and issues ultimately stems from an “awe” problem — we have lost our awe of God, thus allowing the things of this world to affect us in so many harmful ways. It is both encouraging and freeing.

6. I’m Still Here: Black Dignity in a World Made for Whiteness by Austin Channing Brown

I first read this book a couple of years ago when it first came out and WOW! So good. It not only opened my eyes to a lot of the real issues of race around me, it also talks about the role of African-Americans is not to constantly have to educate white people, etc. It’s a small book that packs a punch and is easy to read.

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Family Goals Health and Wellness Marriage Parenting

What’s Your Word of the Year?

Since the beginning of 2021, I’ve been hearing a lot about having a “Word of the Year.” People have been choosing a “Word of the Year” prior to now, but I wonder if I’m seeing it more this year because people are afraid to have goals and dreams in 2021 after the letdown of 2020. 

It’s crazy to think that there is one word in all of language that will envelope my hopes for 2021 (check out this funny video from The Holderness Family: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uNZeZK7-4uU), but I think I came up with one. I still created my list of dreams for 2021, but tried to funnel it all into one word.

My word of the year is CARE. 

I picked this word because of the different ways it can be used.

“Take care…”

“Handle with care…”

“I care about you…”

I want to be more empathetic and show people that I care about their hurts/struggles. 

I want to make sure those closest to me know that I love them and make it a priority to tell them every single day that I care about them and that they matter. 

I want to grow how I take care of my aging parents and my family. I want to heal relationships by caring enough to listen and learn. 

At my job, I want my students to always know that they are valued and loved

In my business, I want my clients to know that I genuinely want to see them grow and succeed — that I care about their health and success. 

When the world gets crazy and out of control, I want to care about it more and not just compartmentalize. 

I want to care enough to be honest with people when I’ve been hurt instead of walking away.

As with any goals and dreams, I’m not going to beat myself up when I fail. My hope is that this word will resonate through my mind as I look at my daily to-do list, waver on returning a text, or find myself holding onto my hurt and anger…and that I will make a decision to show that I care.

How about you? Do you have a word that resonates with you and your dreams?

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Goals Health and Wellness

Setting Your Goals

It’s a new year, which often means new goals and dreams. Most people come up with a resolution or goal, but often give up because it is unattainable or they are looking for quick results. There is nothing wrong with coming up with a list of goals for the new year…as long as you realize that it might take all year to attain them. Most won’t get achieved in one month — which means that you can’t give up after January if you haven’t met your goal AND you can’t wait to get started until November or December. Start right away with the knowledge that anything great worth doing is worth the time and effort.

It’s helpful to have smaller goals as you reach for your big goals (which I like to call my Dreams for the year). Dreams are the big picture, but you need multiple, smaller goals to reach your big goal/dream. So, you may have a big goal of losing 30lbs, but your smaller goals may be to lose 1-2 pounds per week, add one vegetable to your day, etc. You may want to get into an exercise routine again, but you can’t just go run five miles. Your smaller goal may be to do 10 minutes of movement per day for one week, etc. 

Another reason people fail to meet their goals is that they don’t know how to make goals. You need to make SMART goals.

Specific: Goals should be clear and state specifically what you wish to be accomplished.

Measurable: You need to be able to measure your goals so that you can see your progress.

Attainable: Goals should be realistically attainable.

Relevant: Goals need to be relevant to your particular needs, interests, and abilities.

Time-bound: Goals need to have a timeline for completion.

Your smaller goals may only be for a week or month, then once you meet that goal, you create a new one to move you toward ultimately completing your big goal. When I decided I wanted to stop eating chocolate every day and quit sugar 5+ years ago, my original goal was to go just one day without sugar! After I did the one day, my goal was one week. Then it was two weeks, then one month, etc. I started with a super small goal and then built on it.

There is a lot more I could write about how to set goals, but perhaps another time. 😉

2020 was a rough year, but don’t be afraid to dream big and make 2021 amazing! Just be sure to set those smaller SMART goals along the way to help you have success with your dreams.

And if you’re looking for assistance on any health goals, feel free to reach out to me! As a certified Health Coach and Group Fitness Instructor (with an M.A. in Exercise Physiology), if would be my delight and pleasure to work with you!

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Family Health and Wellness

Better Because of 2020

2020 is officially gone and 2021 is here! I know most people joke about the dumpster fire that 2020 was and how thankful they are to see the year be over, however, when I look back at the year I see how God used the hard to create better. Without the crazy year of 2020, my life would be on the same crazy train it was at the beginning of the year and I wouldn’t see the growth in my marriage, my family, my job, etc.

At the beginning of 2020, our lives had become busy without even realizing it. We would find a way to add one more activity to our week and adjust, never seeing just how crazy life was becoming. Then everything shut down in March and we were forced to stop and be still. My husband and I both saw that we needed to take a step back and have made intentional choices to not let our lives get as hectic again.

When everything closed, including my job, I realized that the job I had was pulling me away from the time I desired with my family and that I was missing my kids growing up. God provided another job for me in 2020 that allows me to put my family first, be the mom that I want to be, and never miss a moment with my kids.

With more time at home to cook and share, my husband and I discovered the teamwork that we had both been longing for in our marriage. I learned how better to love him and our marriage has grown deeper and stronger during this time.

Those are just the tip of the iceberg of the positive ways God has worked in my life this past year.

I’m thankful for where my life is now as we enter 2021. I don’t look back and hate 2020. Were there some really hard things this past year? YES! But the growth and change and blessings that resulted have made it worth it. And I wouldn’t change a thing.

Let’s carry on the lessons of 2020 and look forward to God’s blessings in 2021!